The rape jokes is genuine sex pest behavior. Probably not a joke. On hormones - what the [censored] A lot of trans people are not in safe environments to be able to transition any other way than socially. A lot of trans people can't afford the HRT even with insurance, or don't have a way to get access without being endangered by bigoted family (keep in mind we're in SC) or possibly losing jobs. Every trans person is valid. Everyone has the right to feel safe in their skin. Let's focus on helping people access HRT safely rather than putting them down to make ourselves feel better. I'm not even trans and this is obvious.

No one asked you to answer. I said all I have to say. Go do something better and stay out of this culture that you can't healthily be a part of. Reinvent Quinn and don't even think about re-visiting.

And yes, if you all couldn’t tell. Yesterday, Quinn said RIP Phantom, and told others to kill themselves in the same breath. You can hold people accountable without going to that extreme, and further proves my point that you haven’t processed what happened to Hue. This isn’t a cute coping mechanism to deal with the death of a loved one, you are still so incredibly sick. Same Quinn posting about trans people needing to take hormones to be valid. Same Quinn that joked yesterday “I’ll rape a woman’s asshole and a man’s vagina”. So disgusting I didn’t even want to repeat it.

I'm not really sure what part of this you'd like me to answer to, I don't expect grace on my identity alone and I don't change my identity monthly I've been queer for over a decade now and out as trans since 2018 at the latest at this point I've been on hormones for over a year as well. I've not once expected my identity to protect me from anything. I am a gender abolitionist I think in an ideal world those things would hold any of the weight they do yes, I don't expect that to change in this lifetime though. I don't think anyone's experience is up for debate as valid for or not under any circumstance. I have and am consistently changing my ways. I have also been honest especially in the past year or so about the mutual toxicity in that relationship and the fact Hue was never consciously causing me harm, at no point did I ever stop loving them or missing them it has nothing to do with wether or not I desired them sexually and I find that abhorrent to say. I didn't stay here to [censored] 18 year olds I stayed here at the time because I thought my pursuits with art were worthwhile, and my relationship with Emmy is complex and significantly more private than any other relationship I've had in recent years. I don't care about feeling important in the scene, I hate that just having my face or name attached to anything creates some form of reputation in anyway, I love art and creation and want to do anything to foster it, it's why I've poured time and money into it over and over again with nothing in return. I want bands to play Charleston, I want artists to have a place to bend or display their work, I want people who can't afford to get into it to be able to borrow gear and start whatever band they want. I've never delivered half assed apologies because I've never gone out of my way to talk about these things publicly. Of course I get lonely without shows I love shows I love music but I don't love drama and for the record I have no problem finding people my age into the things I'm into in bed I think it's weird you feel the need to say that though. Sobriety doesn't absolve me of the things have done you're absolutely right and I haven't tried to claim that it does.

What happened with Sarah might I ask? Been fond of NAO for a while. Anything recent since 2022?

Since you felt the need to bring Hue into this: Nobody blamed you. You spent months prior to their death calling them a [censored] calling them crazy. Even Jordan called them a [censored] AFTER Hue passed. You constantly told people “I know everyone hates me and I know it’s my fault, you can just say it”, nobody else made you feel that way. Nobody blamed you, but yourself. You feel guilty because the things you had control of, you always made the choice that benefitted only you. Forgiveness only benefits you here. Others have moved on and accepted that you will never be capable of reciprocating the understanding and care that they offered you. You haven’t because you haven’t accepted what you really have done. You say you don’t blame others for your situation, but your words and actions say otherwise. The only friends you have now are the people you outspokenly despised not that long ago. Sarah? I’m sure you don’t want me to go down that road. My advice is to stop while you’re ahead and move somewhere else. You will not find community here, you have forever lost the trust of the community you had. Again, this isn’t a matter of sobriety. This is a matter of YOU.

THEY posted that about fake trans people? be SO deadass when you say that because I thought it was someone else entirely. Hooooly shit and here I was trying to give resources right as that last website shut down. Always wondered what happened to their previous partner. She didn't deserve any of what happened. Quinn get your head straight. Take a LONG step away from the scene, take a LONG step back from ANYONE you've known and start new. Go somewhere else, I don't mean as in just leaving Charleston, I mean AWAY from the scene culture that obviously is bad for you. Start a new job, go to college, fucking anything to get yourself out of this. This is way too messy for a 23-24 year old to be doing. Change the fundamental way you look at things and at people. I had so much rage and hate when I last took a step back. I wanted hell-fire on everyone I didn't like, but it's not that fucking deep. I've taken time to really examine why I've looked at things the way I did in the past and how I acted and it's not easy but PLEASE Don't do what's easy PLEASE don't do that shit you NEED to take the hard road here and reinvent Quinn. I'm in so much of a better spot mentally, physically, spiritually, socially and financially because of this and you can say whatever the [censored] you want about me but anything anyone thought they knew about me 2019-2023 is gone, it's been replaced. Do that.

Already hard to believe that you’re actively working on yourself, you know, with you inability to be honest about anything when given the chance. You posted the most disgusting shit I’ve read from someone in the scene YESTERDAY. You constantly expect sympathy and grace for your shitty ways based on whatever you identify as that month. Identifying as a “gender abolitionist” is already laughable, even moreso when you feel empowered to decide which trans people in the scene are and aren’t valid. Change your ways for once, not your gender identity. You made Hue out to be the villain in every scenario until you missed sleeping with them. You let your girlfriend desperately propose to you to salvage what relationship you had left, just to stay in SC to [censored] 18 year olds. You haven’t changed and I think you’ll have fucking Alzheimer’s before you do. All you care about is feeling important in the scene. You [censored] up, go into hiding, and then hope some half-assed apologies will be enough to cover your tracks. The craziest part is that I think you get lonely being away from shows, not from a genuine love of music and community, but because you crave drama and can‘y find anyone your own age you will let you wear puppy ears in bed. Sobriety is good but will not absolve you of the person you still are.

lets get these guys back NOW

I'm so fucking glad I moved away when I did. Colorado fucking rules

it's good that you're sober. good that you've left that house. skating by things was not directed at you. I don't recall anyone purposefully misgendering you, I feel like you transitioning hasn't been very public as it relates to the scene at large. It's good that you're transitioning and hopefully that's going well for you. Sorry for the transphobia that has occurred on the previous site even though I'm not related to the previous site, this site, or any of the instagram pages I feel like it's a burden on the scene that people feel the need to be so vile when given anonymity. I don't think anyone directly blamed you for Huey's death. I've never heard anyone express that sentiment. Please stay sober, stay grounded in who you are and do your best to do better. Things people say about you can be totally false but their perspectives on your situation are largely formed by you.

I don't mean to sound full of myself but I'm genuinely quite confused what you think I've skated by or acted better than, so many people have had so many different things to say about me over the years that just isn't true or grounded in reality and I deliberately chose to ignore those things not to avoid responsibility but because it didn't seem productive to feed into any of it. What makes a lot of the things I see said about me hurt the most is that theyre so clearly coming from people who dont know me. The main reason I feel the need to say anything right now is because other sentiment that I forced Huey to commit suicide, over the years I've heard from people that someone or another has suggested that about me and everytime it's devastating. Seeing that tragedy used to justify misgendering me or calling my transness fake on top of it filled me with so much sorrow, I don't understand what people are trying to do when saying those kinds of things except just cause me pain. I loved Huey deeply and the pain of losing someone like that is something I can hardly express even through art.

Saying anything here isn't going to change anyone's minds about me but I want you all to know that I left the house in march and have been sober since then, It's been a terrible couples years and I was too busy caught up being selfish and wallowing in self pity to notice the people around me that I was dragging through the shit with me. Active addiction and mental illness don't excuse anything or lead to direct forgiveness and I know that. I've pretty consistently worked on self reflection and especially now being sober I've kept up with therapy and doctors appointments and other things pretty well. It's hard to really get into anything in detail with strangers but I know the people who've really spent time with me see the work I've been doing. I really appreciate the support and attendance the house has gotten and I love seeing creation in action. Please carry yourself through life with grace. Grace for yourself and for others, so much trouble would've been avoided if I'd have stopped trying to constantly punish myself over things beyond my control for the past two years. Ive deeply hurt the people closest to me and betrayed the trust of friends, a few words here won't change that but I see the things you guys say and it gets stuck in my head and digs at me. I'm open to talk though, I'll reply the best I can here, so if you've got any pressing issues with me or something you think I haven't acknowledged here's your chance to say it anonymously. I haven't made any public statements before because I genuinely don't think handling these parts of life so publicly helps much and often leads to performative apologies but like I said the stuff I've seen here and the other forum these past few days has really gotten to me.

being young is cool, being a predator isnt..... they wouldn't be so insufferable if they just took ownership of their mistakes and did actual work on themselves instead of skating by it and acting like they're better than it. that whole part of the scene likes to just arbitrarily decide who is and isn't worthy of getting better, who is and isn't lying about things that happen to them, and who is and isn't worth being treated like a human being with compassion and empathy.

they literally mouth kissed my dog tongue and everything and they complained it wasn't a pure bred? like what the [censored] my dog is only 3 ? fucking creepy, make baby sniffing Biden looks normal fucking freak ass venue